Hi Jessica, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about four years. It’s horrible, and I’m afraid if I don’t fix this feeling, I’m going to sabotage the greatest relationship I’ve ever been in. Are you sure you’re really in love with him and not in love with who he used to be, or just with being in a relationship?I’m really in love with him, but lately I feel really bored too. He still tries to be romantic, takes me out on dates, buys me flowers, etc. When I think about seeing him in the evenings after work, though, I just feel like, ugh. If you’re not in love with the guy he is here and now, there’s nothing you can do to change that. You have the right to feel however you do, so stop feeling guilty, STAT!“For me, being “too nice” means that a guy isn’t adventurous or risky enough.Get my adrenaline going every once in awhile,” she explained.The reality is being nice is actually not that valuable of a trait in a man (or anyone really).There is more to dating than holding open doors and listening to someone talk.Coworkers will start to see you as someone who can't say no, and try and talk you into helping with — even when you have your hands full.
Why would a girl want to date a guy that just lounges and watches TV all day. So when you are talking to a woman you are interested in, you can do more than just open doors and listen. One of the things about most "nice guys" is that they use their "niceness" as an excuse.As in: because I am nice, a girl should want to date me. Niceness is in large supply; there is nothing special about it.Being too nice can come across as passive and bland."People will soon start finding you boring," says Manish Barnwal.Relationship consultant and blogger Telisha N echoes Mindy’s stance: “You may very well be the type of individual who craves routine, organization and predictability in order to think straight, but even the most anal retentive of personalities need a release from the everyday humdrum.” For some girls, predictability in a relationship is boring.